Mrs. Leah Golomb, a well known educator, gave her take on women who insist on trying to do those Mitzvot that are reserved for men. She was referring to women who wear Tallit and Tefillin or need to get Aliyot to the Torah or even hold a Torah. Mrs. Golomb explained the concept of גדול המצוה ועושה משאינו מצוה ועושה definitely applies here. One who does certain Mitzvot because they appeal to them, does not nearly get the reward of one who does the Mitzva solely because he is commanded to do so. The Torah is not a popularity contest. We are meant to submit and surrender to the demands of the Halacha whether we agree with them or not. Leah's point is well taken.